Loneliness is a self-imposed sentence. So why do you punish yourself? You don’t feel worthy — worthy of respect and acknowledgement and love?
It’s easy to isolate ourselves when we feel that, for whatever reason, we don’t deserve to be loved.
It doesn’t matter. Just remember that you are worthy.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE . . . . No matter how you are feeling right now. . . .
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Just think for a minute . . . .
There is someone who already loves and cares about you. Now think–who is it?
Everyone needs someone to love who brings out the best in them. Someone with whom they can feel safe. And loved.
Are you in the habit of being alone, whether you want to be or not?
Even in a crowd?
If your present situation does not bring you JOY, just remember . . . .
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Even if you don’t already know it, someone needs your help . . . right now. Who might that be?
Even if you don’t know it, someone is looking for someone like you. Someone to love — and be loved by.
Maybe you haven’t met him or her yet. It doesn’t matter. Are you willing to wait for the right time? The right person?
Maybe he or she is in your life right now. Are you willing to acknowledge that person’s love right now? Then, reach out to them. Reach out and love them the way they deserve to be loved.
You will never regret the love you give.
And remember . . . . YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Your friend,
Carol
P.S. — What have you learned about loneliness? What have you learned about love? Tell me about your own experiences. Just click on “Comments” to respond. I welcome appropriate comments!
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I have done many things alone and have felt empowered by doing them. Leaving my home to go to school halfway across the country and on another continent provided many opportunities to grow up. Now, most of those events are behind me and are not as much a source of positive feelings. as they once were. I felt strong that I was young and independent. I know there is a lot of that still inside me, but I feel tired and thought that I would have been soothed by a long-term relationship at this point. I’m still pretty young at 20 according to many standards.
Now, I am alone in a foreign city. I do have a good friend that will be staying with me in an apartment. The thing, is I always had a diverse group of friends. Sadly, I don’t think I connected with them the way I wanted to, because I couldn’t spend enough time sharing beliefs, fears, and goals. It sucks that emotional distress about women distracted me from enjoying my groups of friends to the max. This has left an empty feeling inside me- there is a feeling that I’m isolated from love.
I am struggling to be patient in my search for love. This is difficult when there is so much distraction and flaunting of love in our society, in media and on the street. To me, someone who does not know love, fake love and real love can seem like the same thing. I am so curious, but confused about how to go about living my life at this moment.
Thank you for the post Carol! I believe you are worthy of love, even if you turn out to be a polar bear! : )
Jurasee, as the saying goes, “Don’t worry — Be happy.” Just try to live the best way you know how every day. Be the best “You” that you can be, and things will work out well for you. Confusion at age 20 is normal! You have many years ahead to find someone special. In the meantime, enjoy your family, enjoy your friends, and enjoy every minute of your life that you can.
Carol,
I was clean up Mother emails and found your URL address. I went ahead to read any new news…
Ah, I am so use to be alone and naturally, I am hearing impaired person and only child all my life. I read your newsletter about polar bear.
I most look at alone polar bear in this picture. This melt me away, makes me relax and it bring me lots of good memories. That makes me wondering… am I like polar bear? Because when I was young, I always ride on a bus and met new friends on my way to Beach, again met new friends at the beach, too. I love to be alone and anywhere I want to go but with friends to go out… are the most difficult for me because I want go this way but friend want go opposite way and/or I want to met new friend but friend do not want to. on and on… so what to do and how to deal with friends? I am very patient person and always follow, what they want that makes me feel like I am rabbit to follow them, Ha! I believe I want to be alone like a POLAR BEAR. I smile…
Let me know, thank you.
I live in New York City and I also feel lonely, particularly in the evening, when I come back from work to a home that is cozy and well-kept, but I still long for the illusion of finding a partner and sharing my life with him.
I do have to say, I was married for 13 years, I have been on my own now for close to 15 years, I have never felt the loneliness that I felt when I was married. I guess when you have someone special in your life, you just expect that the person will be there for you, and, if he isn’t , the feeling of loneliness and low self-esteem takes over.
I have managed to create a purposeful life for myself, but my two children, young adults, as well as the rest of my family, they all live abroad. As a teacher, the best time of the day is the time spent with my students. I wish I had more friends, I wish I could find a partner. However, at 54, I feel that my chances are slim, lately I have been trying to fulfill my free time with creative/ empowering activities, such as yoga, card-making, painting. Lots of reading. It hasn’t been enough, so I thought the next thing I will do is volunteer work. If and when I have the energy. Any ideas on how to go about this next chapter in life?
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